Dating is never easy, especially during the first few dates when you don’t really know the person in front of you and you must maintain a level of safety and distance, so that you won’t have to face awkward situations.
But dating a sugar baby/sugar daddy on a sugar daddy website is even more challenging because online dating is in general tricky and difficult to manage, especially when you are a first timer.
That is exactly why safety always comes first, and there a few tips that both sugar babies and sugar daddies must have in mind, during the first couple of dates, when looking to establish a sugar relationship.
The place, the look, the attitude – these are the three main things you need to consider when dating a sugar daddy/sugar baby for the first time!
No matter if you are a sugar daddy or a sugar baby, choosing the right location for the first dates is vital. The location must be a neutral one, not too fancy, not too shabby, so that the other partner will not feel out of place.
Don’t go for a restaurant or bistro with a certain specific, because these first dates are meant for the both of you, sugar baby and sugar daddy, to get t know one another, so it is too early to take a risk and go on a place that has a cuisine from a certain part of the world.
You don’t know if your partner has any allergies, or if he eats spicy food, or if he/she enjoys eating in public and so on. You can opt instead for a nice, cozy coffee shop, a bar, or a restaurant/bistro with international cuisine.
The location of the restaurant/coffee shop/ pub you are about to meet at is also very important. Choose a place that has a central location, easy to reach via public transportation or car, a place with good lighting, because you are here to learn more about each other, not try to guess how the other one looks like, at the candlelight of an obscure place.
Another important thing about the place you are about to meet, is to let one of your close friends know about your date – hour, place, and the name of the person you are going to meet. And this is available for both sugar babies and sugar daddies, because if something bad is about to happen, it can happen to any of you (for example, the sugar baby may come accompanied by a strange entourage, or the sugar daddy may come on too strong and make the sugar baby feel unsafe).
Both sugar baby and sugar daddy should try to keep the look in the smart-casual area. As a sugar baby don’t apply too much makeup, don’t wear your fake lashes, or nails, don’t wear clothes that are too reveling, or heels too high.
As a sugar daddy, try to keep a neutral color scheme, put some effort into choosing a nice t-shirt or a casual shirt. Don’t come wearing your tracksuit or the suite you’ve worn to work. Try to look casual, clean, and fresh.
Never drink too much during the first dates, it is not ok to get drunk during a date, no matter how long the two of you have been together, but that’s not the point now. One glass of wine, maximum two should be enough, or one cocktail, if you are not a wine drinker. For the guys, keep in mind that you should stick to a maximum of two beers.
You are here to find out more about the person in front of you, to see if there is chemistry between the two of you and to ask all the questions you need answers to. And drinking too much will not help you get that information you’re looking for.
Always have enough money on you, so that you can be sure you can cover both your bills and not be put in an awkward situation, and always have a backup plan regarding the transportation – especially if you are a sugar baby.
If you plan to go home by public transport, make sure to set the date at a decent hour that will allow you to catch the bus back home, or if you plan on taking a cab or use ride sharing, make sure to have the number of the cab or the app installed and working properly on your phone.
Don’t talk too much or too loudly, don’t overshare person information or stories, because there is time for that later if the relationship works. Also, don’t tackle the big 2 topics: religion, or politics!